Clutter and Hoarding – The 6 Secrets of Success For De-Cluttering

Clutter and Hoarding – The 6 Secrets of Success For De-Cluttering

Many people ask me, “What’s the most important secrets for success in decluttering?”. The answer may surprise you. These are “Essential Emotional Support Techniques”. They are the most important to use to help you reduce clutter.

Release Negative Emotions and Beliefs
Other than physical restrictions, negative emotions and beliefs are the main element that keeps a person cluttered. These CAN be released!

Be Gentle on Yourself in Both Thoughts and Actions
One of the most important techniques in decluttering is to reduce judgmental thoughts about yourself and your actions. This may come as a surprise to many people. Cluttered people tend to be highly judgmental about themselves, often making worse comments to themselves than they hear from others. This inner chatter is sometimes relentless as it criticizes the cluttered person. Both the outside culture and the cluttered person’s chatter are highly negative. This causes forms of depression, overwhelm, and a lack of desire to do anything. This is a form of self-abuse and DOES NOT HELP.

Acknowledge and Celebrate all Positive Thoughts and Actions
Another important technique is to acknowledge each and every positive thought or positive action. This means that, if you throw away one piece of paper, you tell yourself that you did a really great job!

Declutter with “Baby Steps”
“Baby steps” is a wonderful and very important technique promoted by many professional organizers, especially FlyLady. It helps break “mountains” into “molehills.” This technique really works! Basically, you declutter generally every day, but no more than 15 or 30 minutes per day (or whatever your definition is of baby steps). It is essential not to work until exhausted. This technique allows you to do short bursts of decluttering, followed by relaxation.

Create New Habits
It’s important to let go of old non-productive habits and begin new productive habits. Try adding just one small new habit. Then when you’ve gotten used to it and it’s become a habit, choose another one.

On the Path of Orderliness
A wonderful concept is to think that you are “on the path” of orderliness. Imagine you are walking on a path in a beautiful area. As you walk along, you are becoming more and more orderly, less and less cluttered. If you happen to step off the path or go backwards, you just gently step right back onto the path and go forward again. This is a great metaphor for the concept of experiencing the process of improvement in a positive way. You relax and accept that you are in process. It helps to not focus on how much more has to be done, as this can feel overwhelming.